7 Tips on What to Do after being Fired – Getting Your Life Back on Track!
This is the most common thought and expression that 99% of people have immediately after getting fired, laid-off, professional licenses stripped away from them costing them the loss of their entire career or relieved of duty….so what does it stand for?
It’s an acronym that, when spelled out, goes like this: “Oh My God, What Do I Do Now?” …and if you’re reading this article right now, you have more than likely either had this very thought or you’ve verbalized it to your friends or family, or the moment you walked out of that office and got in your car you screamed it out loud! Does this sound familiar? Did this actually happen to you?
Well I can tell you that it has happened to me and if you can paint a picture in your mind about the sentences above, that’s literally how I reacted, so don’t feel like you’re all alone in your situation, because I’ve been there and in this article I am going to share with you the steps I took to overcome this horrific life altering circumstance and then I’m even going to share with you what I did to turn this horribly negative situation into a very positive and highly rewarding totally new career….one in which I had never imagined possible until now!
Take This Job and Shove It!
If you haven’t already blown off some steam since the loss of your job, then right NOW is the time! So let’s do a quick exercise…just pause reading this article for a minute and simply yell out one of these two sayings: “OH MY GOD, WHAT DO I DO NOW!” -or- “TAKE THIS JOB AND SHOVE IT!”
So which one did you choose to blurt out? Now do you feel a little silly?
You probably do, especially if you just yelled that out in a public place with lots of people around you….that’s ok…and you may not have realized it, but you just released tension and decreased panic which is part of the first step that we are going to talk about below when discussing the 7 Tips on What to Do after being Fired, Getting Your Life Back on Track and answering the question that millions of people have asked before you being, “I Got Fired Now What Do I Do?“
(1). PANIC IS PARALYZING!
Ever heard the term “Panic is Paralyzing” before?
Most likely, You have heard these sayings at some point in life and there is some major truth to both of them so pull yourself together and focus on the reasons why you should not panic and why you definitely should not make decisions while panicked or under duress (click HERE for a definition of the word “duress”) ….and if it helps, just think about all the people around you in your life that could also be harmed if you end up making hasty decisions while acting under fear or panic.
Matter of fact, that’s a great rule-of-thumb here, and that is, if you’re not sure whether a decision you’re determining to make or not is a good one or not, just ask yourself this question: “How will this action, this choice, this decision affect those that I love around me?” “Will it harm them or help them?” If your answer to those questions leads to harming others in any way, then it’s most likely a very bad decision!
Even though you may have stormed out of your manager’s office like a tornado, cursing or yelling at them and fellow workmates, or throwing stuff off your desk while cleaning it out then burning rubber while pulling out of the parking lot, it’s now time to take a chill-pill (so to speak…don’t actually take pills…LOL!), or maybe it’s better said to “take a breather” and settle down in a quiet relaxing place (I find the open air and great outdoors to work best for me) and begin to realize that you’re in a state of fear and panic and that before you move forward with any further thoughts or actions, you must first recognize the state of mind you’re in and then begin to take positive steps to overcome it, otherwise, you will be leaving yourself in a state of paralysis and when something or someone is paralyzed, what happens?
Nothing, right? Because they’re paralyzed! They cannot move! And with no movement there is no progress, right? Right! So basically, “Get a Grip” on yourself and don’t let hatred, anger, fear or panic slow you down or cost you any more losses than you have already suffered from the loss of your job.
To Learn More about How to Overcome Fears, Panic, and Phobias…You may want to consider reading “Anxiety: Fears and Phobias Cure” by Bob Smith.
(2). MOURNING CAN BE MEANINGFUL (take time to feel sorry for yourself)
Mourning is very natural and you don’t need me to necessarily tell you to mourn or feel sorry for yourself because more than likely, you’re already there on your own. However, some people will “suppress” such feelings and carry on like nothing has happened but there is a healing side to things when it comes to mourning and feeling sorry for yourself, just as long as you don’t get stuck in that rut for too long.
Know that it’s “OK” to feel this way for a brief time and that you should probably take a few days or even a week off to allow yourself some time to exhaust such feelings of remorse but be sure and know that you MUST “Snap-Out-of-It” soon because you’ve got to begin planning your next move and it’s really tough to focus on planning for a brighter future if you’re leaving yourself stuck under a stormy cloud all the time.
(3). DON’T BECOME A MOURNING MUMMY! (Stop feeling sorry for yourself)
Are you still mourning and feeling sorry for yourself? Well, you can hate me all you want for saying this, but STOP! It’s time to stop feeling sorry for yourself and begin improving yourself so that you can rev up for your next big move to take on the world and prove your worth and talent so you can win that next big job. Wow, that sounds almost impossible to do right now, doesn’t it? Why? Because you’re still stuck in the trenches feeling sorry for yourself and mourning the loss of your previous job, right?
At this point, some of you are thinking, “Well easier said than done man!” …Right? Are you thinking that at this very moment?
There are some great books out there that can really help you overcome self-pity, remorse and mourning the loss of jobs or even loved ones and I’ll be happy to share one with you in a moment that has helped me tremendously in the past with this very issue, however, if you don’t want to spend the money on a book, there’s one simple and very liberating “Fact of Life” that I have learned that works very well and that is:
“The fastest and most effective way to stop mourning, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and to stop the grieving process altogether is to do this one thing which is to Begin Helping Others Overcome their Griefs, Hurts, Struggles, Needs, Obstacles and Frustrations…this will begin to fill your heart with Joy all while building up your internal self-worth and transforming your negative mindset into a positive mindset and before you know it, you will catch yourself smiling again!” (a quote by Jeremy David Wilson).
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(4). REVIVE YOUR RESUME
Now that you’ve conquered your depression, self-pity, mourning, or whatever you want to call it, it is time to begin taking some steps in the right direction and one of these steps includes reviving or revamping your resume. This is also a confidence-boosting step because you will begin to focus on your strengths, your accomplishments, your successes, your talents and the great qualities you possess that you can offer to your next employer or build into a business plan and business idea if you’re thinking about starting your own business at this point.
You can find Tips and Tricks on Reviving your Resume and structuring it to help you “stand out in the crowd” by visiting some of the Top Career Path and Resume Posting sites. Uploading your resume to these sites will put you in front of Recruiters from all around the world that may contact you regarding related job openings that are currently available in your area. Some of the Top sites that I’ve found useful for tips on improving your Resume are:
(5). THE TEST OF TIME (making good use of your time)
Searching for a new source of income, whether it’s applying for available job openings or researching the idea of starting your own business, can be a very time-consuming and overwhelming task. That being said, you must train yourself to get into the habit of making good use of your time and actually accomplishing productive tasks that will bring you one step closer to your goals of finding and acquiring that new income stream.
Now there are many ways to “schedule your tasks” but unless you structure those tasks just right, many of them will still remain unchecked on your To-Do-List and you will begin feeling like you’re never getting anything done and then you’ll end up slipping back into the depression or feeling-sorry-for-yourself stage…and that is NOT productive and it is NOT going to help you to find your next source of income!
So how do you ensure that you will be able to complete your tasks on your to-do list?
I can only speak from experience on this one and that is that I, personally, have to focus on just one task at a time, or what others would refer to as single-tasking.
Single Tasking simply means to “Focus on one thing, and one thing only, until it, is fully completed.” Trust me, this makes life so much easier and enjoyable!
(6). MIND OVER MATTER
Learning how to create a positive mindset to turn the negative situations you have recently encountered into a positive mindset may be tough at first, but if you master the power of your mind and learn to control your thoughts, you will be absolutely amazed at what you can actually accomplish simply by changing your thought habits. Changing your thought habits (a.k.a. “mindset”) has an immediate and direct impact on the choices and the actions you make based on those choices which ends up resulting in how you accomplish things and what you’re able to accomplish…it’s absolutely mind-blowing once you grasp this concept and put it into action!
One way to begin changing your mindset is by beginning to look at this situation of losing your job as an “opportunity” and not a failure.
To begin the “opportunity” side of things, begin writing down what you’re most passionate about and begin thinking about pursuing your passions and not just “making a living.” You’ll be thrilled by the various ideas and inspirations that begin coming to mind when you begin going through this exercise. There are many more incredible exercises that you can do to learn how to fulfill your potential and I highly recommend that you study various ways to accomplish this because there is nothing more powerful on the face of this planet than the power of our minds!
Maybe you’re laughing at me right now, but just think about it, how did man come to travel in space or land on the moon? How did airplanes come into existence to where people (not just birds) are able to fly around the world? How did we come about having electricity available to us at our fingertips and have light by simply flicking a switch? The answer….MINDSET…THE POWER OF THE MIND AT WORK!
(7). FROM EMPLOYEE TO ENTREPRENEUR (consider starting your own business)
Last but not least, if you’re just absolutely “dreading” going back to another “J.O.B.” then maybe it’s time you start considering starting your own business so you can be your own boss and not have to worry about getting fired or losing your job every again!
There are so many types of businesses you can start but keep in mind that some require more of an upfront investment than others (like franchises, for instance, they usually costs tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars before you even get to turn on your “Open” sign for the first time…so do your homework!).
If this option is something you’re considering, then one of the best places to start your planning and your research is by visiting www.SBA.gov which is short for the “Small Business Administration” which is a free service offered to the public and a highly valuable resource that I personally use myself. There’s really no point in me rambling on anymore at this point because the SBA has so much in-depth information on the topic of starting a business that it would be useless to restate the same information here, plus that’s a much broader topic than one can put in just one article anyways….LOL!
I hope this article was beneficial to you and if you believe it was, I would love to know that I have helped someone else that is in the very same shoes that I once wore, so if you would kindly leave me a comment below to let me know, I would be forever grateful and you would be adding a smile to my heart today by doing so! 🙂
Make it a Great Day!
All The Best,
Jeremy David Wilson
PS….I invite you to Learn how I started my own Online Business HERE.